The concept of Ezinụlọ encompasses more than just a word for family in Igbo culture. It symbolizes the unity of the family, both within the household (ụlọ) and outside of it (ezi).

Each component plays a vital role in creating a harmonious and prosperous family structure. Before the influence of the white man, an average Igbo family was led by a man with multiple wives and many children. This was not done solely for personal reasons, but rather to ensure sufficient help in agricultural endeavors. The man's compound was open and shared with his neighbors, fostering a sense of community and unity. The women and their children lived in harmony, taking collective responsibility for each other's well-being.

Roles were clearly defined within the family. The men were responsible for providing the afternoon meal, usually consisting of yam, while the women took charge of breakfast and supper for their own children and their husband. Every child was free to enter another woman's homestead to eat if their own mother was absent or unable to provide a meal. Special occasions and achievements were celebrated with unique delicacies, emphasizing the importance of respect and honor.
Discipline was maintained through a set of laws and sanctions, ranging from fines to suspension and even divorce. Quarreling, stealing, and damaging property were strictly forbidden and could result in severe consequences.

The children were expected to be obedient and responsible. They accompanied their parents to the farm each morning and were engaged in various household chores. Education was not a priority at the time, as idleness was seen as a character flaw that could result in being sold into slavery. The children were taught valuable skills and responsibilities through household tasks.
The traditional family structure fostered strong bonds and a sense of unity. Our forefathers were able to maintain peace and tranquility within their households, even with multiple wives. It is disheartening to see the struggles faced by modern families, with divorce rates soaring despite the advancements and opportunities available to us.

In comparing our current family dynamics to the traditional model, it becomes clear that our ancestors built a more cohesive and stable family structure. Despite their lack of formal education and wealth, they possessed wisdom, discipline, humility, and respect. Money cannot buy the peace and happiness that was prevalent in their society.
Therefore, it is evident that the traditional family establishment remains the best, even in our modern era. We can learn valuable lessons from our forefathers and strive to build stronger, more harmonious families.